Mommy – This word was always associated to my mom; the person who provided me with anything and everything under the sun! If there was something I needed or something I felt, all I had to do was to tell her and my concerns would be taken care of most of the time! It had always been that way until recently when I became a Mom.
At first I didn’t realize what it meant as everything was happening all too quickly and there was no time or energy to sit back and think. The 9 months of pregnancy has its own set of issues and joys but the birth of a child and the happiness it brings along to the entire family is simply amazing! I still remember the day when I got to know about the good news. It was almost three and a half years of marriage and was kind of time to think of extending out little family. All though I was never prepared for it but I guess we are never really prepared to take up this big responsibility. Sooner or later most people do take this step. I had taken the test a few times before but this time it was different! I had this strange hope to see two blue lines get darker slowly. The women who have experienced this would understand what I am talking about.It was overwhelming! Suddenly I felt a strange tickle run up my spine. It took me a while for the thought to sink in. I wanted to run and inform all my loved ones about it. Suddenly my body felt more important than anything else in the world. I had to be careful from now on because the little one inside was most precious. I held my palm on my tummy to feel the little one inside. So valuable, so miraculous and simply amazing!
Soon I became conscious about anything and everything around me. The most basic things became important like what i ate, how I sat or moved about. I could see the happiness in my husband’s eyes when I told him. We felt even more like a family now. We visited the doctor the next day. The hospital was a specialty hospital for delivery and child care. The whole environment was so lovely with photos of babies and mothers to be. The smiling faces of little ones.
My doctor was a gentle and relaxed lady who kept telling me I was good to go. The 9 months went on very well. All thanks to my wonderful mother who took such good care of me. I must say pregnant women are difficult to handle at times with their share of mood swings and big appetite. It becomes difficult for the people around to calm them. But my husband knows best to calm me down and make me feel good. Pregnancy can be overwhelming but nothing compared to the birth of the child. The initial days are too challenging and test your patience to the limit. My suggestion for mothers to be is that take it for a fact that its going to be tough, its going to be challenging. But that’s how it is! Bearing a human being into this world is not a joke. You have to understand that this is going to be tough and need to be prepared for it. The only solution is to accept the situation and keep calm!
Nursing is such a huge task especially lying flat and trying to feed a just born baby who is completely new to it. Strangely you will be amazed to see that the little one knows what to do even though her eyes cant see much. She knows who her mother is. Its true when people say children can sense good people. She can sense who are the people who love and care for her. My baby had been attached to my husband even more than me just within 10 days! My husband used to make her sleep every night. One day when he wasn’t there, she just refused to sleep and kept weeping. We had to call him at 3 AM early morning to make her sleep. Amazingly just when she heard his voice she calmed down.That’s how amazingly sensitive the little ones are.
I read somewhere that having a child is a 20 year commitment. Its a responsibility both parents need to be ready to take. That does not mean you have to control your child or have a say over her choices. We have to very well understand as parents that our child is an amazing creation by herself. She is a free human being with her own set of talent, aspirations, shortcomings. We have to respect that. Our responsibility is to provide good nutrition, good knowledge and a healthy environment for her to flourish!
Some advice for soon to be parents: Don’t try to analyze what’s happening. Just go with the flow. Keep calm and things will get better. The little one needs you the most amongst all the people in the world. She wants to be loved and cared for. It is going to be tough but its only for the best!
For people who have already become parents: You are doing a great job. Just keep doing good as much as you can.
And for those who don’t have kids yet: Enjoy the life you are currently having because life’s going to change in a big way ones you get married and have kids!